I was trying to expand my blogging community recently so I went looking for blogging sites for women over 40. But I kept running into online communities that were downright depressing.
I came across one blog where the locals were discussing their preference for being addressed by age-defining labels such as “ma’am” while eating in restaurants.
One participant noted that this was the “polite” term for a grown-up female.
I’m just Kathy
If that’s polite, give me rude any day. I’m nobody’s ma’am; I’m just Kathy, always have been, always will be. Even when I’m 90.
I know, unless a server is writing “Kathy” on my coffee cup at Starbucks, he or she is unlikely to know that.
If anything, I’d rather be called, “hon” by a certain male voice. That pretty much undoes me but being labeled based on some linear, age continuum before I can order my lunch, not so much.
Respect is just — respect
I don’t need a gender-specific, age-defining label to know that my server is treating me with respect.
A polite, “What would you like to order?” with some direct eye contact, will do.
I’d rather talk about sex
The other thing I noticed about some of these blogging sites for women 40+ was that they didn’t talk much about sex and how awesome it can be.
There was lots of information about nasty medical issues related to it but not much about the fun stuff.
Many women over 40 are having the greatest sex of their lives and trust me, they’re good at it.
I’d rather talk about that — and be called “hon” by someone who could serve me lunch anytime…
c 2016 Kathy Barthel